Handyman, before I give you your advice, I want you to know that you are not alone in being shy. When I was younger, I always had the hardest time talking to a member of the opposite sex. My hands would get sweaty, a big lump would appear in my throat, and it seemed that I had lost the ability to look anyone directly in the eye without giggling and blushing. To help you build up your confidence, all I can tell you is to go out there and start talking. One thing that helped me is that I learned a couple simple rules about conversations. The most important rule is that, no matter how you feel before, during, or after the conversation, always know that there will be others. This world is full of people who will want to talk to you, so don't get depressed if someone doesn't. Another important rule is to keep it simple. When you try and start a conversation with a girl, don't walk up and try to win her over right then. For many women, a man who tries to win them over quickly isn't as interesting as talking to a man that spends the time to talk to them. A man like that shows that he is interested in them as a person, not just someone to jump into bed with. Ease into the conversation and let it go where it will. Don't force a topic into the conversation. And finally, don't be scarred to let your shyness show to the girl that you're talking to. To many women, an actual emotional action or response is more attractive than any of the best pick-up lines. I know it is for me... ;)

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