Dear Nurse Ansalong:
This is a kind of touchy thing. I am 28 and I am in love with a 37 year old who is about to be "devirginized" at our next show. She has said that RHPS is something that she "knew" she wouldn't be into, but she's coming to my cast's production. One of my "fans" is not quite 16 yet and I recieve letters from her once a week. She lives in a town two hours' drive from here. She sounds like a very mature individual in spite of her age. (I didn't find out until recently) She has already declared a trust in me to the point of confiding her darkest secrets. She is dying to meet me and, I think, wants to spend a night with me at my place. I do want to meet her as well, but I'm afraid of 1) what the girl I'm in love with would think, 2) what this young girl would come away thinking, and 3) what her parents would think if they found out. I don't want to have sex with this girl or anything, but it appears she really needs a friend. How do I handle this? I really want to help without a hassle.
-Riffie

Riffie, one thing that I will tell you have to be with everyone involved is honest. I won't lie to you and tell you that your "fan" won't get hurt, but if you meet her and don't tell her the truth, that could hurt her even more. If I were you, I'd tell my girlfriend about your "fan" so she will know what might happen and not be caught by surprise. If she cares for you and trusts you, she will understand that you're not doing anything with this person behind her back. When you talk to your "fan", don't lead her on. Just talk to her like the friend that you seem to be. About her parents, before she stays at your place, you might want to talk to them so that they'll know you and trust that you won't try and take advantage of their daughter.

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