Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I'm in a very heavy relationship with a girl, but when we are having sex, she hurts me. Afterwards I feel bruised and sore. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings as she is extremly sensitive and unsure of herself. What can I do?
-Brit

Brit, being unsure of anything can cause problems. There are training courses for most jobs before you even start. There are some people who need this in the "real world" too. If you really care about her, then when she does something that you don't like or that hurts you, tell her. For all she knows, you're having the time of your life. If you don't tell her, then she'll continue to do what she thinks you're enjoying. When you tell her what's wrong, make sure to tell her what she is doing right. This will help to keep her confidence up and she'll know that there are things that she does that are pleasurable. If you talk to her and help to "teach" her, I think that the two of you will be very happy together.

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