Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have a question about a specific girl I met at Rocky. At first, she acted very interested in me, but then said we had to stop because it was going too fast. I accepted her decision and we stayed friends, but my feelings for her have not dissapeared. On top of this, I have found out from her friends that she tends to get into bad relationships a lot and tends to dump the guys who have any chance of being good to her. Instead, she picks guys who treat her like dirt for some unknown reason. I would like to get back with her. What should I do? Should I just forget about it???
-Rayston

Rayston, the feeling of attraction is a very strange thing. For years, people have been trying to come up with an explanation, but no one has been able to. We are all attracted to people for many reasons, both physical and mental. For whatever reason, there is something that attracts your friend to men who won't do her any good. She also might think that a guy who has the feelings that you do is "too good to be true". I know that I've been guilty of this in my past. I've dated my fair share of the "wrong guy", and I've probably alienated a couple guys who actually had true feelings for me. What I think that you should do is to keep trying to get back together with her. The more interest and true feelings you show her, the more she might think of you. One thing you definately do not want to do is to overdue your feelings towards her. Make sure that she knows how you feel and that you'll always be there for her. A word of warning... You should be ready if she still doesn't feel the same attraction for you or she returns to her "old ways" after you tell her this. It might take some time for her to see the error of her ways, but if you stick with it, you might see her come around to you again.

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