Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I really like this guy and I think he likes me. The only problem is that he has a girlfriend who happens to be a friend of mine. We get along wonderfully together and tend to flirt with each other. I've always had feeling for him and he seems to have feelings for me too. We spent the day together yesterday and we got friendlier than usual, but he backed off suddenly. How should I deal with my feelings and his?
-Jane Doe

Jane, I would advice you to use a little caution in this situation. Your friend might be attracted to you in some way, but the fact that he pulled away from you shows that his feelings for his girlfriend might be stronger. He might also be feeling guilty for "cheating" on his girlfriend with you. For now, I'd say to try and calm the showing of your feelings while the two of you are together. This doesn't mean for you to ignore the feelings. What it does mean is to let him come to you first. If he does have strong feelings for you, then this might help show them to the both of you. But be prepared if he decides to like you as a friend. Also, be careful of becoming "the other woman". Think about what his girlfriend would think if she knew what was happening, and remember that, until he breaks up with her, she is still considered his girlfriend. Give it a little time to see what develops.

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