Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have liked this guy who lives down the road for the past year. We were in 4/6 classes together. I flirt with him whenever we're together, and my parents aren't around, and he occasionly flirts back. I even asked him out, but all he said was "Ummm, I dunno." We're close friends, and I realize this could ruin our friendship. But, as I write this, I think he has a crush on my other friend. When he asked me over the other day, one of the first things he said was "Is 'Aur' over at your house?" She wasn't, but when all 3 of us got together once, they pretty much made me fell left out. "Aur" cheats on her boyfriends. To her they are nothing more than humans of the opposite sex to hold hands and make out with. HEEEEEELLLLLLLPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!
-I've Been Feeling Done In, 'Cause I Can't Win

Feeling, there are many things that a best friend can do. They can be someone to confide in, someone to hang out with, or someone to joke around with. One thing that a best friend can't do is live the other friend's life. People make mistakes, and it's from those mistakes that we tend to learn the most. I have many male and female friends who didn't see the true side of the person that they were dating until they had broken up. For all of your attempts at stopping it, he might decide to go ahead and date her. If you are his close friend, then you will be there for him if that happens. In the meantime, try to make sure that he knows how you feel about him. The two of you can go out without it being a "date". Take him out to coffee or somewhere else that you can talk. This way, it will get the two of you together and interacting. This might help increase his interest in you. Keep trying and don't give up. Be prepared if he still is interested in "Aur". If this happens, you might have to sit down with him and tell him what you know. He might not want to hear it, but, if he knows that you are his good friend, he should hopefully listen to what you have to say. If he still decides to go out with her, be there for him. When you talk with him, ask him how they're doing. Make sure that he knows that you will always be there for him. It might take awhile, but I hope he sees how much you care about him.

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