Annmarie, sometimes love can come in strange places or at the wrong time. It's hard to think when your feelings are being stirred around like a witches' cauldron on Halloween. In your case, I would advice you to go back to being just friends with him. My reaction comes not from the fact that the two of you are related, even though this is a big factor in itself. The fact that he just broke up with his girlfriend bothers me. It feels, to me, like he's reaching out for someone to take the place of his girlfriend and you happened to be the first person that he connected with. I've seen a lot of my male friends turn around and fall for the first woman that they see and try to act like the original break-up never happened. These relationships usually only lasted a couple weeks at the most, and my friends came out of it feeling amazingly bad. Another thing that worries me is that he said, while he'd give you everything you want, he's not sure what he wants. This sounds, to me, like he's willing to do whatever you want to keep you around so that he doesn't have to feel bad about the other relationship. He might think that, since you're 16 and might not have had a lot of experiences within the "sexual world", that by offering you anything you want, it will keep you with him. I don't want to make him sound like a bad person. He might just be someone who is confused after the end of a relationship and is needing someone to be with him to help him move on with his life. That being said, I would still advice you to remain friends with him. At this point, all that it seems could come of this is not good.

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