Torn, sometimes people are blinded from what a person really is. They see the outside and think it's good, but they don't see what is going on behind the pretty face. Heaven knows I've made the same mistake in my life many times. All of those guys who I thought were totally gorgeous and that they really did care about me when I paid for every night out and had a monumental phone bill because they always seemed to need to make that important long distance phone call the minute they got to my place. It's very difficult to see through that smoke screen, but it usually takes a good friend to help the person see. From the fact that you are worried, it shows how much you care about your friend. If the bad things that your friend is doing are very bad, then you might need to confront him/her about them. If there are more of your friend's friends that feel this way, then you might want to do it as a group. The more voices there are, the more chances that he/she might listen. If this isn't an option at this time, then there are a couple sneaky things that you can do. Try to keep your friend away from the "evil" friend. If you keep him/her occupied, your friend might start to be drawn more to you for companionship. Another sneaky thing to do is to stick with your friend while he/she hangs out with the other friend. While you're with them, keep your eyes open and, if your friend looks like he/she is going to do something bad, you can be there to stop him/her. It's obvious that you care about your friend, so I hope that you do the right thing. It might take something big happening to your friend to get his/her attention, but once you do, you'll be there to help them through whatever happens.

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