Frightened, first off, if this person is running around telling everyone about you, then he is definately not your friend. I would also tell you to stay calm. Unless he has hard proof that you were in the chat room at the time, all he has is what he tells people. Without proof, it would be easier for you to deny his story, if that's what you want to do. The one thing that you want to remember though is that, be it tomorrow or next year or whenever, you might have to come out of the closet for real. It's normal to be fearful of being "outed", but you shouldn't live your life in a constant state of fear. All you'll get out of that is nerves of jello and big ulcers. I'm not saying that, if someone asks you about your friend's story, you should tell them the truth and come out. What I am telling you is to use this as a way to prepare yourself for the day when you do feel comfortable coming out to the world. You can learn from everything that happens in life and this is definately something to learn from. So please don't be scared because your real friends will always be there for you, no matter what they hear through the rumour mill.

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