Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I used to like this guy in my school. He was so cute. I told him I liked him and he said "Yeah so". I felt so upset but, little by little, I've gotten over it. I am 14 years old, never had a boyfriend, and most of my friends already had many boyfriend. Sometimes I ask my friends if I'm that ugly that no guy would like me and they say I'm pretty. Now a while ago I had a serious case of acne that made me feel worst. Thanks to god I treated that problem. Now I've met this guy. I told him he was attractive and he said you too. The moment he said that I felt so bad that I just runned. The other day after a school dance the guy asked me if I was the girl who told him he was attractive and I said no that it was probably my twin sister.Then I attmited it and said bad words to him. He got mad and went away. I like him but I think he is a seventh grader and I'm a eighth grader. I feel so sad that everyone might laugh at me. How can I make that guy like me and forgive me?
-Vanessa
Vanessa, the main thing that you need to do is be honest with him. He's probably still trying to figure out who you really are from a personality stand point and whether or not you are someone that he wants to care about. The whole misinformation followed by swearing at him really doesn't help his confusion about you. I think that you need to talk to him and tell him the truth about you. Tell him the reasons that you acted the way that you did and be sure to tell him about how you feel about him. Since he already has a mental image of you as the person who acted strangely to him, you are going to need to work through all of that before he might be ready to listen to everything else. If you go back to him and actually try to talk to him, I think that it will be better. Be ready to put in a little extra work at the start and you just might be surprised at where both of you wind up.
