Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I'm having a rather simple dilemna. There's a guy at the coffee shop that I think is attractive. My question is, how do I get to talking with him so I can find out if he's interesting, nice and all of the things that matter in a person? After all, this is during the hours that he works and I'm rather shy about flirting. I was thinking I should have a friend go in alone and say, "My friend wanted me to ask you if you were single because she thinks you're nice and attractive." Is this a decent idea? I was also thinking, since I only really go out Friday and Saturday nights, I could go in there about an hour before closing and see if he wants to do anything after work (nobody is really in there when they close). Would this be okay to do? Which idea do you prefer? Do you have any other advice on what to do? I'm kind of shy, so any tips would help.
-Just A Confused Little Mouse
Mouse, it seems like you're already on the way to answering your own question. For me personally, the "stop by an hour before closing" idea sounds like the best one. When you go in, you could try and start up a conversation with him and see where that leads. That way, you'll be able to lead him into the date invite instead of just asking him cold. Also, this could help you feel more comfortable with him and hopefully reduce your shyness. You might also try to lead into your asking him out by chatting with him when you regularly go into the coffee shop. That way he'll get to know you and, by the time you feel comfortable enough to ask him out, he'll possibly be thinking the same thing of you. Good luck!
