Dear Nurse Ansalong:
There's this friend of mine and I really like his roommate (they're both 22, I'll be 18 in 6 months). His roommate used to be friends with my sibling. When I went to go visit my friend, he wasn't home, but his roomie was and we remembered each other and started talking. He was so sweet to me, took a genuine interest in my feelings and said I was attractive. I got a feeling during the conversation that he was interested in me, but I don't know what to do now because I really like him. I can't just show up and ask him if he wants to hang out because I think that might be too weird. Should I tell my friend how I feel about his roomie? (By the way, my friend is not interested in me romantically - he has a girlfriend, so that's not the issue.) Also, what do I do if his roomie breaks up with his girlfriend? He said he wished he was single (verbatim), which implies his relationship is going badly and will probably end soon, but is he saying that because he means just that, or is he hinting that he's interested in seeing me when/if he breaks up?
-Clueless and Confused
Clueless, it wouldn't be too weird for you to hang out with friend's roommate. If the two of you have common interests, then it would actually be a good thing and the two of you could have a really good time together. This could also help when/if his current relationship ends because he will know you better and could possibly have stronger feelings for you because of the time that you two have spent together. Also, since your friend is his roomie, if you just happen to show up when he isn't there, it won't look as odd as if you kept trying to visit the roomie. I know it's really confusing for you right now, but, if you just try and be good friends to your friend's current roommate, it could definately help you in the long run.
