Dear Nurse Ansalong:
My friend and this guy were fooling around, but she wanted a relationship and he didn't. There was this major drama, and now they can't be in the same room together. All this happened before I met the guy, and right when I met the girl. The girl and I are friends and the guy and I have just started fooling around. It's the perfect arrangement for me and the guy, because we both just want to have fun, no strings attached, and we've been really good about not letting anybody know what's going on, but I don't want to hurt my friend. Suggestions?
-Nation_m
Nation_m, my main suggestion would be to keep it exactly the way it is now. It sounds like your female friend would react badly to hearing that you were sleeping with her ex, so it would probably be in everyone's self-interest to keep the relationship quiet. If it winds up being revealed and she asks you about it, then I would say to be totally honest with her and answer her questions. But, if she was hurt by this guy in the past, I'm not sure how she'd react to hearing that you were seeing him. Keeping it quiet for now would probably be a good plan for everyone concerned.
