Brad, telling your friends about your sexual preferences shows how much you trust them and how good of a friend you think you are with them. That being said, the other half of that equation is what your friends do with that information. They can either understand and not let it change their friendship with you, or react without thinking to what the idea means to them. The one thing that you definately do not want to do is to change your personality and/or beliefs because of the ways your friends react. It might just take them a little longer to feel comfortable with you. If you want to, give them a little time to adjust before you talk to them again. Go out in a large group of friends. This way, the friends that are more comfortable with you can help the others to see that you are still the same person. If they still act this way after a long period of time, then they might not be the kind of friends that you want to be with. The harrassement and threats is a different thing all together. No one has the right to threaten or hurt someone because of their sexual preferences. If you can, try and keep track of these threats. Tell a close friend about these, so that, if something happens to you, there would be someone who would know what you had been told. If these threats become more physical, there are many groups that are prepared to help. Other than the police, there are many gay and bisexual rights groups across the country that you can call for help. Their phone numbers can usually be found at the front of your phone book. Please don't let these people make you feel like you have done something wrong. Everyone has to be true to themselves and how they feel inside. So get out there and have some fun, okay?

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