Katie, it's always hard to tell our parents things that we think that they will be 'disappointed' about. That being said, you also need to be honest about what you are and you shouldn't have to lie about your feelings. When you decide the time is right to tell them, you might want to try it in a different way. Instead of talking to both parents at the same time, you might want to try telling them one at a time. Pick the one that you feel the most comfortable with to talk to first so that, once you tell that parent, he/she can help you tell the other or at least be a little more helpful for you when the time comes. Whenever you do talk to them, be sure that you are completely honest with them about everything to do with your feelings. The more you share with them, the more they might be willing to listen. One final thing to remember is to give them as long as they need to digest what you've told them. It might take a little time, but, if you tell them the right way and are honest with them, I think that they'll at least accept your decision.

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