Dear Nurse Ansalong:
There is this girl that works for me (I am self-employed). She is 18, but has grown up a lot in some ways because of what she has been through in life. I am 23, and in the same boat too. Anyways, she was cheating on her boyfriend and, when I met her, I told her why is she doing that and to stop and so on. To make a long story short, we ended up falling for each other, but she backed out now with me realizing that she might want to work things out with her boyfriend who doesn't know about her cheating on him. My question is do you think their relationship will last long? They are going away on a trip together to where his background is (Portugal), and she told me that she has been told by other people that a trip with a bf/gf can make or break a relationship; make them closer or farther depending on the circumstance. What do you think? Does this relationship have a chance and what should I do to ease my mind on how she broke my heart really badly?
-Rob

Rob, you didn't give me a lot to work with here, but I'll try to help you out. If I were you, I would try to just let her go. It sounds like a goofy thing to say, but it seems like that she has no problem with cheating on her boyfriend. You say that she cheated with you and someone else and she never told him what happened. That doesn't sound like someone that you should be giving your heart away to.

About the trip question... Trips can definately change a relationship for both good and bad. When you go somewhere together, you are stuck with that person for long periods of time. If there are any little personality ticks between the two people, the extended time together could bring it out and make the situation worse.

Finally, from the info that you gave me and not knowing the people involved, I really couldn't tell you if their relationship will survive. If she is as devoted to being with her current boyfriend as you make it sound, then they might just work it out. But, if she goes back to her old habits, she might find herself looking for someone else to spend her time with.

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