Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I am 17 years old and recently met this guy. Let's call him Ad and I really fell for him. But my problem is not with Ad. It's really with his twin brother. Let's call him An. I just told An that I really liked his brother and he started acting different around me. An and I have been friends for a few years now and I have told him stuff like this before and never did he act like this. Did I do something wrong by telling him I had feelings for his brother? And did I ruin a friendship over love?
-RJ

RJ, it sounds like An might have been a little surprised by your telling him about the feelings that you have for his brother. While you telling him things like this about other people might have been okay, this could have hit a bit too close to home for him. It could also be that he's not comfortable with the thought of his brother having feelings for you in return.

For now, you might want to give An a little bit of space. Give him the room that he might need to figure out whatever problems he has with what you've told him. If it is something that is small, then the time to his thoughts could help to bring him around to the way that he was before. If this attitude continues or gets worse in any way, you should sit down with him and try to discus it. Until An feels ready to be okay with the feelings that you have for his brother, it'll be what he says and does that will change what goes on.

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