Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have liked this guy since I was in eigth grade. I am now a junior, but he is a year older than me, so he is going to be gone soon. He is going to college in Oregon, and I live in New York state. So, after he is gone, I will never see him again. I don't think he knows me that well. I hardly see him as much as I once did. When I do see him, I try to smile and talk to him, but I've been doing that for the past three years and still he doesn't seem to know how I feel. I have told my best friend about my feelings, hoping she could help me. She is in a position to help. I wrote her a long note, spilling out my feelings and to ask for advice. She read the note, but didn't say anything about it. I guess she doesn't take me seriously. I was shocked because I had just told her everything for nothing. What should I do? He'll be gone in a month!
-Time is Running Out!!!!!!

Time, even though it might feel that time is running out for you, there are a couple things that you could do...

1) Tell him how you feel - This might seem to be the hardest one to do, but if your feelings for him are as strong as you say they are, then just telling him could be the best course of action.

2) Try alternate ways to get his attention - Instead of worrying about what happens when you talk to him, you could try to set up discussions that you know will lead toward him learning about either a shared interest or activity. It could concern anything from a band to a school sport to anything else imaginable. This could help the two of you spend more time together in the short timespan left and make it possible for you two to continue talking after he graduates. Which leads me to...

3) Give him your home info - If he's as old a friend as you say he is, you could slip him your home address, phone number, and/or email address before he leaves for Oregon. That way, there is the possiblity that he'll keep in touch with you after he's gone.

Whatever you wind up choosing, please be prepared for him to not share the same feelings for you that you have for him. He might look upon you as more of a good friend than a possible relationship, so all of the things that you try might not get any response. Go in with an open mind and try to not to overdue anything and I think that you'll be alright.

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