chances, if you've been lusting after this guy for as long as you say that you have, then it sounds like your feelings for him run a lot deeper than you might think. Whenever anyone is attracted to another person, it's always difficult to tell how strong the feelings actually are. Once you get through the "Infatuation Phase" when you meet a new person, you sometimes wind up with not a lot of attraction for the person in the end. You also could wind up with a level of attraction that seems to border on true love. It's hard to tell which way any relationship will go, but that's the price that we all pay, myself included, for having the emotions that we do.If you're looking for a way to get over this guy, the main thing that you're going to need is time. While you've been lusting for three years, it might take you another year to come down off of the attraction. You might not want to hear this, but you need to realize that, if these feelings of yours do run extremely deep, it could take some time to work through them.
Try to be careful that these lustful feelings don't block you from a guy that you would be into under normal circumstances. Feelings for a new man in your life could help you work out all of the old ones from this past person so don't let the mixed-up emotions blind you. Make sure that the old feelings don't close you off to new experiences that could make you wonder why you were so hung up on that other guy in the first place.
Getting over feelings that you've been having is not a simple thing. It could take a little while for you to get past them and move on. But, as long as you keep trying and don't wallow in what could have been, you'll see the light at the end of the tunnel soon.
