Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I like this girl and I want to ask her out, but how do I know if she likes me as a boyfriend or just a friend. She is a good friend and I have heard that if your friends and then you date it can ruin your friendship. She's nice to me all the time and she doesnt pretend she doesn't know me in public. I'm just shy and don't want to make a big mistake. So what do I do?
-radgnome

radgnome, if you aren't sure how she feels about you, there are a couple ways that you can find out. You could always try to ask a mutual friend who might be able to give you an answer. You could also try and talk with her about her feelings in a general kind of way. Instead of walking up and asking her how she feels about you, try talking with her about the kind of man that she'd be interested in. Her answers might surprise you.

There is a way to go out with her without all of the stigmas that can appear if it's called a date. Try inviting her to go to the mall or somewhere like that with you. Going somewhere a little more public can help ease the stresses for the two of you and also provide enough excitement to get you past the problem moments. Also, if, for some reason, it doesn't work out, at least the two of you will have had fun as friends and know that you can hang out together like that without any problems.

Whatever you do, I hope that you get what you deserve...

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