Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I am an 18 year old female who is in love with a 15 year old boy. He turned 15 only 4 days before I turned 18. His mother has a problem with my age. We love each other very much, but, he does what his Mom says. This means the
only way I can communicate with him is by writing to him care of the school he goes to. This upsets me immensely. I want to see him all the time but
he can't, even though he wants to see me. What do I do?
-Someone
Someone, parents can have a very strong hold on people, especially when they're young. It sounds like the Mom of your boyfriend has him on a very short leash. One of the main things that you need to prove to her is that what you're feeling for her son is true and you're not just going to use him and then move on to the next. She might think that her son needs to be protected from people that can hurt him, so she reacts towards you in a protective manner. Try to find ways to prove to her that what you are interested in her son for the right reasons. This could be anything from a hobby to some kind of volunteer work to anything else that the two of you share an interest in. She might try to put up guards against you, but, if you really do care about him, keep banging away at them. It might be hard at first and it could take a little time, but the longer you stick around, the more she'll hopefully come to realize that you aren't going to hurt her son. Good luck and don't give up!
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