Dear Nurse Ansalong:
My boyfriend and I broke up after having a fight that was stupid. He basically told me that, for the 2 years we were dating, I ignored whatever he told about what we were fighting about. He got out of my car and I went after him, which was wrong, but I love him. Well, that night we had been discussing how old girlfriends had tried to call the police on him. Well, in the course of us fighting, I said, "Do you want me to call the police?" which I knew was wrong, but now he doesn't want anything to do with me. He won't even talk to me because he feels that I am like the other girls. I would never do anything to hurt him and he knows that he is just running. Do I need to get him back or do I walk away?
-dani

dani, it sounds like your boyfriend has some problems that he needs to work through. From the way that you've described it, it seems like he has some kind of "prosecution anxiety", basically the feeling that the minute somebody mentions bringing in an outside force to handle the problems, that person then pushes the threatening person away for their own self-protection. Also, from the things that you mentioned, he might have had some problems with ex-girlfriends calling the police about him. The important thing that you need to do is try to find a way to get word to him. If you can't get in touch with him directly, try to get a message through one of his family members. This might be good because the family member that tells him could be the one that he trusts the most. If you can't do it that way, try sending a message through a mutual friend. If he means a lot to you, like it sounds, then you should definately give it a try. Just be sure that you don't wait around and miss out on a chance from a new person that'll come into your life. Give it some time, but don't give up your life to a guy that's not going to come back to you.

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