Dear Nurse Ansalong:
This is definately bizzare. I'm going out with a guy (I'm a guy myself), who I love to death. I believe he loves me just the same, but there is a twist. He's been in a relationship with someone out of state who he has NEVER met and there are rumors that he is not real for 2 years. He says that he loves us both, but it's a different love... not more or less. This guy is a jerk, from what my boy tells me, and he may not even be real. He's supposedly an adult acting pretty good as a teen. My guy believes that whoever he is, he really means a lot to him, and wouldn't be joking. I want to be number one with him. He knows I'm uncomfortable with it. What else do I do?
-Unknown

Unknown, love can be a very difficult thing, even without any outside problems like the ones that you have. If this "relationship" is bothering you that much, then be sure that your boyfriend knows how you feel. By just mentioning it and then not bringing it back up again, he could think that it's not as big a problem with you. Before you try to "win" him back however, you might want to try to ask him seriously about this guy. Try to find out what his feelings are for him. It could be that he loves him like a friend while he loves you in more of a relationship sense. Once you know what's going on, then there are ways to show him that you're his "Number 1". Plan out some special nights with him doing things that he really likes. Make sure that you tell him how you feel. Don't just take it for granted that he knows that you love him. As I said before, don't panic before you know the full story about what he thinks of this other man, but you can always make some extra moves to guarentee that he'll always be with you.

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