Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I know this is the oldest kind of story, but here goes. I really like this guy friend of mine (I'm female), but we've been friends a long time and I don't want to ruin it. We're both big ROCKY fans and we met under ROCKY-related circumstances. During a class he started singing "The Time Warp", and I finished the verse for him. The thing is, we had a mutual friend (female) and she told me that she liked him, and I kind of pushed her into asking him out knowing he would probably say no. He did. They're not friends anymore. In short, I don't want to lose my best friend, but I want him to know that I feel more deeply than he thinks for him.
-JanetVice

JanetVice, I've said this in a couple prior advice messages, but feelings can definately be a strange thing. They can get you to act or react in ways that you never thought that you would in a million years. Your problem seems to run along those lines. It sounds like you and your friend already have what could be the beginnings of a relationship. If you don't know what his feelings are, you could always try to ask him in a sly way. Ask him about what happened when your now ex-friend asked him out and see what he has to say. He might not be interested in anyone or he could already really like someone. Also, try to invite him to go out with you in a "non date" situation, like to the mall or somewhere similar. This way, the two of you can get to spend some time together and see what each other is feeling. The more time you get together, the more he'll be able to see the way that you feel for him, and, if you're lucky, he'll feel the same way for you too.

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