Dear Nurse Ansalong:
Ever since I saw ROCKY HORROR, I thought Richard O'Brien is the sexiest man alive. My friends think it's weird, but most of them accept it. My girlfriend shares my sentiments, so there's no problem there. My parents, well, they don't really know how I feel, and they're not the problem either. My main problem is that I think about him as almost my everything. My dad is almost never around, because he's always at work. The last time we really talked was when he told me I was becoming too one-dimensional because of ROCKY HORROR (I can tell you, I'm not). My mom acts mad at me a lot, for no reason. She gives me the impression, through words and actions, that I messed up our family because I am bisexual, very bohemian, and love ROCKY so much. She has also called me very nasty names. So part of my O'Brien obsession, I think, is for love. I mean, watch his movies, and look at that recent German movie award he won... I fantasize about parents like that, who would accept me for who I am. He seems so wonderful compared to my parents... and, while my parents aren't always there, I always have all my Richard pics to talk to. I know this is not healthy. How can I make this better, and keep it down to a simple infatuation?
-Random Magenta/Nation
Random, what it sounds like to me is a case of "Unconditional Love". While your parents talk down to you about everything, your movies, articles and pictures of Richard O'Brien are always there to give you the love that you don't feel from your parents. Your "O'Brien Collection" never says no or that it's too busy or whatever other excuses your parents have used. While this isn't a bad thing, it could become extremely bad if taken too far. If your feelings start to get too strong, try to direct them to something else, like to your girlfriend or to another hobby. This way, while you still get the warm feelings from your collection, you're using that energy to change and to, hopefully, better your life. This creativity could catch your parent's attentions and start to help to repair your relationship with them. One definate thing to remember is that something like this could take time. There will be moments of relapse, where the old feelings come back. It is not unhealthy to feel the way that you do. There are many documented stories of how a fan of a certain performer has used those strong emotions to change and better him/her lives. As long as your actions don't start to turn to more of a "stalker" metality, I think that you'll be okay.
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