Dear Nurse Ansalong:
My best friend and I have only known each other for a year, but we are really close. Lately, he has been ignoring me and ditching me and not really talking to me or calling me at all. He says I act like we are going out too much, but he was the first one to hold my hand, put his arm around me, etc. etc. He is really hurting me if he does not talk to me. I do not know how to make him be nice again. What should I do?
-Ashley

Ashley, from what you've told me, it sounds like your friend could be confused about his feelings. He started out being comfortable showing affection around you, but, for whatever reason, he's stopping. If he still has trouble being with you, you might want to try to get him into a group of mutual friends and see what happens. While you're there, try to talk with him but don't be as "romantic" as you have been. Being in the company of friends could get him to relax a little towards you. It could feel more like hanging out instead of a "date". His reaction to the way that you're acting could show you what's going on in his mind. If the group idea won't work (like if one of his other friends is pressuring him to not be as friendly with you), you could try to just spend some time with him doing whatever comes up. This could take a little of the "dating" label off of your time together and could bring him back around to you. While you do these things, remember that his feelings for you could have changed back to just friendship again, so be ready for the chance of rejection. But, if you don't try, then there's no hope at all.

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