Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I'm really depressed. It seems that all my relationships last only a few weeks because the guy wants to have sex with me (but I'm not of that magical legal age yet). The last guy I went out with wanted to have sex with me, but he said that he didn't want to hurt me, and that I was too young to be in such a serious relationship. What's wrong with me?
-Cat

Cat, there is nothing wrong with you. If there is a person with a problem, it's all the guys that you're going out with. If the only reason that they stop seeing you is because you won't have sex with them, then these guys aren't the right ones for you. No one should be forced to have sex just to continue a relationship. While it is slightly nice that your most recent boyfriend didn't want to "hurt" you, it is definately possible to have a serious relationship without having sex. There are many people, both male and female, that are virgins by choice but have been in long, committed relationships and never had sex once. Also, please remember just how old you are and that you're going to have many years ahead of you. Those years will be full of new and different experiences and maybe, once you feel ready and have found the right person, your first sexual experience. Give yourself some time and I think you'll see your relationships start to change for the better.

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