Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I dont really know if this is a problem or not. I guess i'm just confused. I've always been fairly open minded (or would like to think so). I dont think I'm gay or bisexual, but I've always prefered the company of those who are, as opposed to people who are "straight". Maybe its just the open mindedness or the difference from what I'm, basicaly, surrounded with, that interests me. Anyway, I'm not attracted to women, but men dressed in lingerie and make-up is a definate turn-on. I can also see myself and bisexual and gay men and women being very close friends. Does this sound strange or disparaging in any way?
-Vigil

Vigil, I've been performing RHPS for many years now, so nothing is strange to me anymore. There is nothing wrong with you perfering the company of gays and lesbians to "straight" people. You might feel safer around them to be yourself or they could share the same beliefs and interests that you do. You don't become friends with a person just because he seems like the person that you should hang out with. It's also not a bad thing to find men in lingerie attractive. We all have turn-ons in our lives (mine are roses and back massages *hint, hint* ; ) that pull us towards the people that we are romantically attracted to. Even though you think that you aren't gay or bisexual, you could still feel an attraction to men in make-up and lingerie. The fact that you're not attracted to women leads me to believe that there might be something more here, but without talking to you more, I can't say for sure. Other than that, I'd say don't worry if you like to spend more time with non-straight people. It's your free time to spend. You're free to spend it as you like...

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