Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I've been seeing this guy for a time now, but he's way too attached. I'm starting to feel like I'm being suffocated. I really do like this person and I'm afraid to let him go, but I can't stand his overaffection. Could you please give me some sort of suggestion on what I could do to let him know?
-Sophia
Sophia, men and women tend to always run at different speeds. In relationships, it always seems like one person is overly affectionate which causes problems with the other. If the two of you are close, then I don't think it would be a problem for you to tell him how you are feeling. When you do tell him, explain to him what you do like. That way, he'll be able to replace his "bad" habits with "good" ones. One thing to remember is that he obviously cares about you so you might want to try to not be too harsh to start off with. If, after the talk, he continues with the same overaffection, then you could try to be a little stronger toward what he does. Give him a little time and help to learn what you like and I think that you'll both be okay.
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