Dear Nurse Ansalong:
It's been three months since I've broken up with my boyfriend and I'm not over him. He's starting to date again and he's one of my best friends so I can't exactly distance myself and it hurts for me to even think of him with someone else. A bunch of my friends say I should tell him I'm not over him but I don't want to burden him with the way I truly feel. I want to see him happy and I'm afraid that if I tell him I may jepordize his new relationship (even though it isn't all that serious) and make myself look like an idiot. What should I do??
-Janet4711

Janet4711, if you care for someone deeply, it can be very hard to let them go. You always picture him as "yours" and it just doesn't sound right for him to be seeing other people. It might be difficult for you, but I think his dating might be something that you can use to help get over him. If he has started to see others, then he's probably gotten over the break-up and is moving on with his life. You don't have to go out and get a new boyfriend immediately, but you should try to move on. Start off slowly to keep mind and emotions calm. As you get more and more comfortable without him, you can start to "speed up" and possibly start to see another person. There is no set time limit on how long it takes to get over a relationship. It can sometimes take emotions a long time to heal before you're ready again. If it is really bothering you, then I would advice you to tell him about your feelings. You don't want to make it sound like you'll do something dangerous if he rejects your feelings again, but let him know that, while he might be moving on, you're still having trouble getting started.

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