Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I`ve been best friends with with this wonderful girl for three years now, but I`m madly in love with her! I`ve been this way nearly the whole time I`ve known her, but I know if she says no, I`d never be able to look her in the face again and I`d be out of a best friend! We do every thing together, and every second I`m with her, I love her more and more! But I just can`t ask her! So please, HELP ME! What do I do??
-Nathan

Nathan, the first thing that I would tell you is to try and calm down. Sometimes your emotions can get mixed up and they can make you say and do things that you shouldn't. You don't want to be in the middle of an emotional low when you possibly have the chance to ask her out. There are a couple ways to find out how she feels. While the two of you are out together, try to direct the conversation toward the subject of dating. You don't have to just ask her "Do you have a boyfriend?" or something as obvious as that. Start talking about some universal things about dating and see what happens. If you know any of her friends, then you could try to ask them about her romantic life. They could also help you learn about the guys that she's been attracted to in the past. If these two fail, then you might have no other choice than to ask her out. Instead of setting up the always dreaded "FIRST DATE", see if she'd be interested in going out to coffee or somewhere that the two of you can talk. This way, you're out together but you aren't trapped in the normal "dating mode". And, if she is your best friend, I don't think that she'd totally reject you if you asked her out. Keep it simple and let both of your feelings come out at their own pace and I think you'll be okay.

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