Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I recently got in a fight with my best friend, because she will spend more time with her boyfriend than me. We have gotten into this same arguement over and over, and she has continually promised to change, etc, but never does.(except for about a week after our fight, then she is back to her regular "self"). I'm not sure if it's worth it to make up with her. Sure she's my best friend, but she continually hurts and betrays me and our friendship. Should I talk this out with her, AGAIN?? If I should, what should I say to have her understand that she needs to change for the best??
-The Confused Frankie Fan

Confused, if she's as good of a friend as you say she is, then you should definately try and talk with her about your problems. When you do talk to her, make sure that she understands that you do still want to be friends, but that her actions are hurting you. You could try and figure out certain times where the two of you can spend time together. That way, she can talk to her boyfriend and make sure that nothing gets scheduled for that time. There is one thing that you should do before you talk with her - Stop and think why she's acting the way that she is. I know that, when I have a boyfriend, I want to spend as much time as I can with him. I don't plan on hurting anyone because of this. It's just that spending time with this special person can be more important than hanging out with my other friends. She might not spend as much time with you as she used to, but it might just be that she's more interested in spending time with him and not you right now. Like I said before, try to talk to her and make sure that she understands how you feel. You shouldn't let a boyfriend come between you and your friend.

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