Dear Nurse Ansalong:
My boyfriend is cool and all but now I'm falling in love with Matt, one of his, and mine, best friends. I don't want to hurt him and I love him, but how do I tell him I want Matt? Or do I just take Matt and let him find out on his own?
-Drusilla

Drusilla, if you truely want Matt instead of your current boyfriend, then you owe it to him to tell him because there will be so much more trouble and pain for everyone if, as you put it, you "just take Matt". Also, be sure that your feelings for Matt are true. If it winds up being infatuation and not love, then you could wind up without anyone. How to tell him is another story all together. You should try to be as gentle as you can and also try to tell him this to his face. Breaking up with someone over the telephone is definately not a good thing. Be honest with him and I think you'll be on the right track.

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