Dear Nurse Ansalong:
It just doesn't seem like most people are interested in me romantically. My relationships with the ones that are interested had to end or can't happen for reasons such as distance or stupidity. I'm only 17 and I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me, but I've been waiting so long for such a relationship. People tell me that I don't need a significant other (I'm bi, by the way.) to be happy, but I just don't believe that this is true for me because I'm so depressed (as well as sexually frustrated). I've had a few close friendships that could have evolved into something more, but I'm always rejected. Sometimes it's obvious that the other person feels the same way about me, but they still say no. I really don't think it would ruin the friendship unless there was a bad breakup.
-Leah
Leah, it can be very difficult to find a "significant other". Take it from a woman who hasn't had a date in a year and a half. One thing that you definately need to do is to not give up hope. The world might seem big and cold, but there are people out there that could be attracted to you. Try to look around your favorite places the next time you go. There could be someone just like you waiting to be meet you. Try to think about why your past relationships didn't work. If it was something that you did, then try to learn from your mistakes and move on. If it was something the other person did, then you shouldn't be blaming yourself for that. Also, remember that, many times, whether or not we are attractive to someone else could be a matter of timing. Meet him/her while they're attracted to another person, and you'll wind up alone. Get introduced to the same person when they don't have anyone in mind, and you could be seen as the perfect person. And, trust me, I do understand about being sexually frustrated...
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