Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I wrote in earlier (as "D") and asked you how I could tell my friend that I liked him. I have another question: How can I tell if he likes me? I know it's difficult to tell, especially with someone shy, but I don't want to make a move unless there's a good chance he likes me back. My friends aren't much help with this, either - I've asked them if they could tell how he felt about me & they couldn't. I just don't want to lose our friendship. Are there any common ways to tell if someone likes you?
-Daisy
Daisy, your question could have hundreds of different answers. Since I've probably never met the person that you like, I'll have to speak in generalities. There are a couple ways that a person can show that they are interested in you. One way would be that the person seems to try to spend as much time with you as possible. Since the two of you are at work, this could be that this person goes out of his way to be near you. He might volunteer to help you with a project when you haven't asked or something like that. You could also watch his reactions when you get to work. If, as you enter the room, he goes from quiet and shy to being active and talking, this could show that he has some feelings for you. A third way is to listen closely to the conversations that you have with him. Pay attention to the ways that he responds when you mention a like or dislike. Even though he's nervous about admitting it, his responses could show that he's more interested in you by what he says and how he says it. Also, it might be hard for you, but I'd advice you to try and take it a little slow with him. If he is as shy as you've described, it might take a little bit longer than another person to admit to his true feelings for you and "come out of his shell". Whatever those feelings may be, I hope that it is all good for you.
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