Dear Nurse Ansalong:
There is this guy I am in love with. I lost my virginity to him a couple months ago. He isn't my boyfriend, but we have been good friends for a year and a half. The problem is this guy sleeps with other women and I hate that. It hurts a lot when I hear about it. I know I can't do anything about it and I dont have the right to, but I have real strong feelings for him and I dont know how to just let him go cuz I don't need a guy like this in my life.
-Stupidly In Love

Stupidly, don't feel bad that you can't seem to leave this guy behind you. Whenever you have strong feelings for anything or anyone, it's extremely hard to let them go away. The fact that you lost your virginity to him is adding considerably to the feelings of attachment to him. From what you've described, it sounds like you're getting to the point where you can't take anymore of his cheating. Everyone has their breaking point and it sounds like you're getting close to yours. If you want to, give him an ultimatum. Tell him either he stops cheating on you or the relationship is history. Hopefully this will wake him up enough to get him to stop. If he won't, then he might not be the right guy for you. Be prepared if he just shrugs you off and goes on the same way as before. And don't panic about not having a man in your life. When I broke up with my exboyfriend over the exact same thing, I thought that I'd never find another guy who would care about me. But, I was wrong, and there are probably hundreds of guys who are waiting for you to be single again.

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