Dear Nurse Ansalong:
My friend, Diana, has met some 16 year old over the internet. She says she wants to meet him, but her sister told me he was an ex-convict. She seems to be in love with his words. He says he wants to come out and meet her. How can I tell her, without hurting her feelings, that she shouldn't get so involved?
-Frozen In Time
Frozen, this is, as they say, a very sticky situation. There are many ways that a person becomes attracted to another person. It could be a look, or a phrase, or anything. But, once they get those feelings, it's sometimes very hard to let them go. It might be hard for you to talk to her without hurting her feelings, but you should definately tell her about your feelings towards the meeting. While her mind might be clouded by what she's feeling for him, your mind could be more able to see the entire picture. Make sure that when you talk with her about this that you don't come straight out and tell her that she's wrong. If you do this, you'll probably wind up having her get angry at you. Explain to her what and, more importantly, why you feel and let her try to tell you the way that she's feeling. Let her talk out what's in her mind and heart. This could help her clear up what she wants to do. If all else fails, talk with her about delaying the meeting for a couple months until they get to know each other better. That way, you'll all have time to see if he's the right guy for her...
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