Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have fallen in love with my best friend. I am bisexual, but he is totally straight. I don't know what to do. Now he has a new girlfriend, and I must admit I do feel a little jealous. I'm afraid if I tell him the truth about my bisexuality and my love for him, he'll react in a very negative way. He is the best friend I have ever had, and if I lost his friendship, I'd die. Please help me.
-Pleasehelp

Pleasehelp, I wish there was something simple that I could tell you to do. It's hard when the person that you love doesn't feel the same as you. You also have the added problem of your sexuality. It is okay if you're jealous of his new girlfriend too. I know that I've been jealous of the girlfriends of guys that I had feelings for. The main piece of advice that I would give you is to make sure that, even though it will hurt at the start, you don't let your friend go away. He must be very special for you to feel the way that you do about him, and, if you let him go or pushed him away, it might cause you even more pain than you're feeling right now. For now, try to spend time with him in groups. That way, if you start to have problems with your feelings, you'll have someone to turn to for help. Lastly, if you're friend turned his back on you if he found out that you are bisexual, then he might not be the person that you think he is. You should never change the way that you think or feel to make someone else happy. It'll probably take a little time, but your broken heart will mend.

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