Dear Nurse Ansalong:
Me and a few of my friends went to Mill to see ROCKY a couple days ago. It was supposed to be great, but it turned out to be a virtual nightmare! I was with my best friend, D, this girl that I LOVE, J, and her friend, C. D bought J cigarettes. He knows how much I love J and how much I detest smoking. But he bought her cigarettes anyway. I couldn't stand watching J smoke, so I went and stood by the theater. This girl off the street pointed me out and said "He's cute." I didn't even react! I was too busy thinking about J! I know that I'll never have her, but I'm a hopeless romantic and I can't get this out of my system. Should I just let it go and leave J alone? Or should I keep trying? I'm going back to ROCKY in a month and I don't feel I could stand asking her out to ROCKY again. But I'm not just a hopeless romantic... I'm a pathetic romantic.
-Fleckenstein@usa.net
Fleck, to begin with, I'd like to say that I totally agree with you about smoking. It's a gross and smelly habit that I have thankfully stayed away from. You shouldn't call yourself a "pathetic romantic". If that were true, then many of us would be called that, myself included. If you do really care about J and she feels the same as you, then you should tell her how you feel about her smoking. About if you should keep trying, it depends on your feelings towards her. If there is a chance for a relationship, then you shouldn't throw away the chance. For now, try and be friends and see what happens. This will also free you to see about others. One last thought... While it may be hard to handle your feelings for J and that she doesn't feel the same, it will get better over time. Give it a little time, and I think you'll be feeling better.
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