Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have fallen desperatly in love with my best friend in the whole world. He is so funny and great, I love him to no end. He is all I think about. I am a bisexual teen, and he is completely straight. I think I am realizing that I can never have him, but I constantly long to be his. I feel really ashamed, because now I feel like I can never have a normal friendship with a guy without falling for him. I am in chaos. What should I do?
-Confused

Confused, the first thing that I would tell you is to calm down. The feelings that you have for your friend, especially when they aren't shared, can cause a person to become overly emotional to the world around them. While sometimes not with the same circumstances as you, everyone goes through rejection from people that they are attracted to. And please don't feel ashamed or that you can never have a friendship with a guy anymore. While you have these feelings for this friend, there are many other males out there that you could meet and be friends with. In my life, there are a couple of guys that I'm attracted to, but I also have the same amount of male friends. While I do care about my male friends, the feelings that I have for them are different than the ones for the males that I am romatically interested in. Also, be careful that you don't let your confused feelings take you away from a friend that means a lot to you. Best friends are not that easy to come by, so don't let this one get away. Give the hurt feelings some time to work themselves out and I think you'll be alright.

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