Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have seen a few letters very similar to, but not quite like, the one I am about to write now. I recently went through a very bad breakup. I don't know if that has anything to do with this or not, but it may. It was a heterosexual relationship. Well, recently I have found myself often fantasizing about my best friend, a female like myself. Not just in my sleep, like in a letter I just read, but when I am around her. I find myself wanting to kiss her and touch her and so on. It is very awkward because I have known her for about seven years, and just now started having these feelings. For those seven years, we would joke around and flirt with each other but it was just joking. We still do it, but now I feel it in a different way. I don't know if she feels the same way. A friend of mine says he told her how I feel. She has not indicated a thing. Should I tell her? If so, how? I don't think it will hurt our friendship, but I don't know what I can expect.
-Triste

Triste, if you don't think that it'll cause any damage to your friendship with her, then I'd say tell her your feelings. The fact that you just broke up with someone else might have "brought out" feelings that you've always had. They might have been there all of this time, just waiting for the right time to come out. Major events in a person's life tend to bring up old ideas and feelings as a way to help the person through the period. Before you talk with her, you should probably have a serious talk with the mutual friend who told her about your feelings. Listen to what he says about her reactions and what she said. This could help you to figure out how she feels for you. How to tell her is a different thing all together. If I were you, I would sit down with her and talk to her alone. That way, there will be no distractions from the outside world and both of you can spend as long as either of you need. Make sure to tell her that, whatever her feelings for you, you will always care about her and that her friendship with you means everything to you. I wish you all the luck, whatever happens.

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