Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I am 22 years old, and I did not have sex until about a month ago. I cared very much for my girlfriend, and she said she cared about me. After we did it, and during, it didn't feel right. Ever since then I have been wondering if I lost my virginity to the wrong woman, or maybe i'm gay. All I know is that I didn't enjoy it. And the fact that her roommate caught her with another man a week later does not help. I'm single again, but I keep wondering if I'm gay, or what.
-Wondering

Wondering, just because you had a bad sexual experience with one woman, it doesn't mean that you're gay. The body works in strange ways. We all have our own eroginous zones, and these don't tend to be in the same place for every person. If your girlfriend didn't excite you like you wanted, then she might have missed your areas. I had a boyfriend who I had sex with when I was in college, and it was always a strange experience. Everytime we did it (and it wasn't a lot of times), we never could get it to work out. It's just one of those strange facts of life. Don't let your experience with one woman cloud your mind to your true feelings. The fact that her roommate caught her with another man shows that the problems that you had weren't totally your fault. But, now that you're single, you can go out there and find someone new. I hope that you have better luck with your next girlfriend, or whomever you go out with.

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