Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have a hard time getting people to think of me in a sexual way. No one finds me sexy and I am so afraid of rejection, I always assume that the person I like doesn't feel the same way.Help!
-Me

Me, there is no easy way to be more attractive to other people. Everybody has different ideas of what or who they find attractive. I find an intelligent man more interesting than a handsome man, but I have many girlfriends who think I'm strange for feeling that way. If your nervous about whether people find you sexy or not, then try and slow it down a little. A person who runs up to someone and tries to be "sexy" is probably going to get the cold shoulder. When you're with someone that you like, try and be a little flirtacious. This doesn't mean that you have to cling on to him/her. What this means is try and find out what the person that you like is interested in. The more that you know about the likes of the person, the easier it will be for you to be more inticing to him/her. Two last piece of advice... First, don't think that the person that finds you sexy is in love with you because it might not be the truth. Lastly, don't equate "sex" with "love". While you might feel amazing after sex, to have someone really love and care for you is an even better feeling to me.


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