Scared, it's perfectly normal to be scared when you meet people for the first time. The thoughts of what might happen if you take the chance of talking run through your head until you're too scared to do anything. I know this because I was like you when I was younger. If someone I liked started to talk to me, I'd either start blushing and try to run away or lose all control of my neck and not be able to look him in the eye. To get past your fear, you need to do the very thing that you fear. If you lock yourself away from the world, then you'll never get past the fears that you have. If you're scared of meeting a person for the first time, then have a friend come with you to help. If it looks like you're having trouble, he/she will be there to help. Also, if the problem has to with a person, then try to start talking on the phone. That way, you get to talk and learn about the person but you don't have to worry about being in the same room as the person. A main thing that you need to learn is to try to remain calm as you talk. Take deep breaths and don't let the fact that there is a pause in the conversation make you think that there is something wrong. The more practice you get, the better you'll be at talking to others. And about your old friend, she might be smiling at you because she feels the same way about you as you feel for her. It might be hard, but try talking to her. You'll never know what will happen until you try...

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