Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I had an affair with a married man that, like myself, is involved with a cast. I'm in the cast-he's on the lighting/security crew. A short time ago his wife found out and we didn't talk for a while. Now we are speaking again & they MAY be getting a divorce. I want him back, but how can I get him? I love this man with all my heart.
-Meg

Meg, the first thing that I would tell you is, if you do try to get him back, wait and find out what is going on. If he's gone back to his wife and is trying to patch up their relationship, you might wind up getting into more trouble than you'd want to. Either talk to him or his friends and find out all of the information. If they are getting a divorce, then talk with him to find out how he feels. He might not be ready for a relationship immediately after the divorce, but if he knows that you are still interested, he might head to your side once his life is back to normal. One thing that you definately do not want to be is "the other woman". If this happened, you might find that many of the people around act differently towards you. There are many people who would find having an affair with a married person morally reprehensible, and that stigma could stay with you for a long space of time. Give it some time and find out what is happening before you try anything. If the two of you were meant to be together, than it probably will happen sometime...

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