Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I am 15 and I have a girlfriend. I am female. Well, we are MADLY in love and I am engaged to this woman, whom I love and she loves me. Oh it's great... TRUE LOVE! But, my Dad recently found out and I come from a family where I get constantly put down and never shown any love. So now I am forbidden to do anything with any of my friends because they think I'll be with her!!! Ahhh! Its bad enough not being able to see the love of my life who lives only 45 minutes north of me, but the fact that I get no love at home hurts more because now I am back to being low in confidence, I hate myself, etc. This relationship was starting to improve my low esteem and now I'm unloved again. What do I do? I am still going to marry this person when I turn eighteen, but the only time I can call her is from pay phones at school and I miss her soooo much. HELP!!
-Jane Doe

Jane, I wish that everyone's life was like a sitcom. Everybody seems to care about each other no matter what happens and all of the problems are solved in 30 minutes. But, as I'm reminded most days, real life is nothing like a sitcom. Depending on your age, you might be trapped with these problems for awhile. I'm very happy to hear how devoted you are to your girlfriend. It's very difficult to find true love in this world, and, when you do find it, you should keep it for as long as you can. There are a couple ways to keep in touch with your girlfriend. If she has an email account, you can send instant messages back and forth. Also, it's very easy to get rid of emails quickly if your Dad happens to come into the room as you're reading. If you have a job, you can try to arrange to meet her during a break. Your Dad might not allow you to do anything with your friends, but that doesn't stop you from seeing them at school. If one of your friends lives or works near your girlfriend, that person could take letters back and forth. Sending messages this way would also avoid the chance of your Dad getting it before you, like if it was sent through the mail. If you start to feel low or unloved around your home, try to remember how much you love her and she loves you. These feelings might make you lonely, but the knowledge that you aren't all alone in the world and that someone does care about you will hopefully ease the lonliness. Like I said before, it's good to see that you care about your girlfriend as much as you do and that the feelings are mutual. It might be difficult and, depending on your age, feel like it's taking forever, but your love will help pull you through.

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