Dear Nurse Ansalong:
I have been with my best friend for 3 years. Just recently, she has gone though a lot. Her boyfriend broke up with her and lots of things going on with me too. She says she can't "read me" anymore, and is thinking if she still wants to be my friend. She said this a month ago, and has been avioding me since. I love her a lot and would not want her to break the friendship. I keep trying to talk to her but she will only talk to one person and that person will not tell me anything. I'm really scared of losing her friendship. What do I do?
-Hurt And Confused
Hurt, sometimes it's hard to be a friend when the other person doesn't seem to feel the same way for you. From the way that your question sounds, you seem to care for your friend a lot. That being said, the main thing that I'd advice you to do might sound impossible - Let her go. For whatever reasons, she has broken off the friendship. Her feelings might be confused from the break-up and whatever else happened to her to the point that, in her mind, she doesn't feel like you are the friend that she used to know. She might need some time away from you to realize just how important of a friend you are. If you do follow this advice, then you should make sure that she knows that, whenever she needs someone, you will always be there for her and that you are still her friend. If this is something that you don't want to do, then try writing her a letter telling her how you feel. She might find the truth about your friendship in the printed word that she can't in the spoken. Hand deliver it to her house to make sure that it will get to her. It is very difficult to lose a friend, especially one that you've had for 3 years. But, if you give her some time to clear her head about everything, you might find your friend returning to your side very soon.
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